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This Dumbinant bozo messaged me with his lame copypasta. His profile is all about how intentional and attentive and genuine he is, blah, blah, blahhh. Soooo attentive that he isn't at all interested in anything real about the women he mass messages. We'll call him, "Director of Emotional Resonance Projection", "DERP", for short.

(My commentary like this)
Commentary = stuff I added for you, the readers, rather than part of the original message exchange.

DERP
50M Dom
United States

Your profile genuinely stood out to me, so I wanted to reach out respectfully. I’m interested in a dynamic rooted in honesty, and real affection. I enjoy being attentive and supportive, and I take pride in making my partner feel valued and well cared for [winky emoji]
If this resonates with you, I’d be happy to explore further.

Respectfully,
[Presumed real name].

(Yeahhh.. This reeks of copypasta, but I'll give him the customary chance to prove me wrong or redeem himself.)

KhaosWolfKat
54 F Evolving
Marysville, Washington, United States

Hello Sir,

I would love to know what aspects stood out to you most - and what it was that actually prompted you reaching out. Interests, commonalities, ideals, fetishes, personality traits?
Is the D/s dynamic I described something that interests you?
Why and/or why not, and how would you approach building such a thing?
Enquiring minds want to know!

Cheers,
~ Khaos

DERP

Hi there Khaos, I am glad you took the time to respond to me, I find you're profile quite interesting and attractive.
Yes, I do find the D/s relationship interesting but I noticed you said you're neither a Dom nor sub, so I am guessing you're a switch which is fine with me.
I am always open to exploring as opposed to limiting myself to a particular experience.

(NAILED IT!)

KhaosWolfKat

So, you are not going to answer my specific questions, but instead, just respond with answers as vague as your initial message?

Let's be honest. You didn't really actually READ my profile, did you? You might have skimmed a little, and maybe even looked at some of the pretty pictures or the fetish list, and you sent me your generic, C&P message that you also sent to lots of other women, just to toss your line out and see who would respond.

I even gave you a chance to recover. You could have taken the time AFTER I asked the questions to actually read at least enough to glean SOMETHING of my actual personality, traits, or interests, or something about the specific D/s dynamic I described in great detail, but nope!

Oh well. At least I didn't really get my hopes up.

DERP

OK

(At least he didn't pivot to spewing insults, I guess. Yay?)

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