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Another douche barrel "dom" barging into a sub only server to try to pick up women. He had a gross nick, which I have changed to something very similar, but not enough to be breaking the rules.

(My commentary like this)
Commentary = stuff I added for you, the readers, rather than part of the original message exchange.

KhaosWolfKat
Idle

Dripping-dude — Today at 11:23
Hey there

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:36
Hey

(Apparently, dude can't comprehend what "idle" means)

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:36
Umm.. Hi?

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:36
Left the server earlier it wasn't personal

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:36
I had to add you because I couldn't reply otherwise.
Which server?

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:36
Idk anymore

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:37
Have we spoken before?

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:37
No, I joined a server that was mostly dead and left soon after texting you

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:38
OK.. But you don't know what server? How many did you join, message people from them, and then leave?

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:39
No Idk the server anymore and that's not important

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:41
Well, it is kind of, since that would affect the reason for messaging. What kind of server was it? Like.. Gaming? Literature? Lifestyle? Cigars? Dating? Party/Night Life? A specific fandom? ....?

(Some of those aren't types of servers I'm on)

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:42
Pretty sure it was erp or just domXsub thing

(Yeah... nope. Spoiler alert turdball.. I already know what server it was, cause I saw the new join and then that we had no servers in common - and it was for SUBS ONLY.)

I still don't see why you didn't just ask why I messaged or just don't be paranoid that people on discord texted you on discord
You're not even famous

(Ooh.. A negging attempt. How original.)

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:44
That was my next question.
No.. If I were famous, it would make more sense that strangers just messaged me out of the blue for no apparent reason. So, since I'm not, it is rather perplexing.

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:46
I was in a server looking for a sub that was either about BDSM or ERP

(Well, at least that isn't a lie, but still, sub only groups are specifically supposed to be places where we DON'T have doms - or wannabe dom dumbasses - there.)

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:47
ERP?
Have you had much luck finding a sub by just messaging random women on servers for submissives?

Dripping-dude — Today at 15:49
Varies
Are you just uncomfortable but won't say that?
Because that's easier than 20 questions

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 15:57
Oh no. I am perfectly good at saying when I am uncomfortable. I am just trying to figure out why you would first of all, go on a server that is specifically for submissives only.. as a place that is supposed to be a safe place JUST for subs, and then use it as a personal catalogue of contacts for submissive women who don't even know you at all to jump in our DMs.
That's pretty creepy. Kinda like going to a bar and going through discarded receipts to find women's names on them and get their phone numbers.
Except for it's a women's only bar and you snuck in, so even creepier.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:02
That's not at all comparable and you really lost me on that comparison

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:03
Really?

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:03
It's more along the lines of going to a speed dating place to filter potential partners

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:03
No. It's not.
Because you didn't go to a server meant for dating.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:03
I don't feel the need to argue with strangers online

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:04
You went to a server meant for submissives only.
You KNEW you weren't supposed to be there.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:04
We both don't know what it was but sure lady

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:04
Then you left as soon as you messaged a bunch of women, so you didn't get caught and banned.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:05
No I didn't get action and left

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:05
Yeah.. We actually talk to one another about creepy dudes who do that shit.
Why would you ever think you would get "action" in a server for subs only?
Cause there are no competing dudes, so you would have the entire garden all to yourself?

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:06
What server are you even talking about because I didn't see any of that

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:06
That just tells us that you have NO respect for boundaries.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:06
There was only like 7 people online
In the server I left

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:07
Well sparky, I am only on a couple of lifestyle servers. So it's pretty easy to find the new joins. Which, BTW, don't disappear when you leave a server.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:07
I never thought they did

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:08
Also, in ALL the servers I'm on, my DMs are marked ask first.
So again, no respect for boundaries.
That is actually helpful to us though, cause we know who will ignore our limits and boundaries, so we know who to avoid like the plague.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:09
I feel the same about ask to dm mfs

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:09
Right... Cause how DARE we wiminz demand that you ask permission to do ANYTHING.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:10
No it's not mysognony that's why I didn't say women

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:10
We are supposed to be there for the taking and thank you for gracing us with your oh-so-domly attention.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:10
Wow you have issues with misanthropey

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:10
Oh.. My bad. So you don't care about anyone's preferences if it gets in the way of what you want to do?

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:11
No I find it dumb you go online expecting to not interact with anything
Especially being social on social media

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:11
Nope. I have issues with people who ignore other people's personal boundaries.
How hard is it to ask someone in the group first if they mind a private message?

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:12
How hard is it to not respond to DMs and not make it other people's problems?
Argument works both ways

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:12
You made it your problem when you messaged, cupcake.
Your argument is invalid, since you were the instigator. And since you ignored my stated boundaries and did what you wanted anyway.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:13
[Gif of what looks to be a boxer/pittie mix]

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:13
Cute pup. I bet it would learn boundaries way better!

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:14
I'm really sorry you have these issues, I hope you're not this combative irl as I'm very combative irl
You can close DMs

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:15
Oooh! You sure told me!
Nah. At this point, you'll have to take the initiative to do that.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:15
Youre 45 having a misanthropic/trauma related meltdown because someone texted you without permission
Online
I'm 21 and didn't fully read a bio

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:16
Meltdown? Not at all! LOL. Cause now I'm just having fun at your expense, and am gonna post this whole convo for several thousand group members to mock.

(Also, I'm 52, you illiterate donkey violator, not 45.)

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:16
Oh no

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:16
Don't worry. I'll change your username to protect your identity.

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:17
Idrc about online

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:17
Well.. That was not strictly true. It's to protect me from getting in trouble, cause those are the group rules.

Oh good!

Dripping-dude — Today at 16:17
Glad you have a group
At least

KhaosWolfKat — Today at 16:19
Yeah. Groups like that exist cause it's impossible to be female online and not have to deal with idiots sliming into our inboxes uninvited all the damn time. Much more fun to post the shit and laugh at y'all than get upset about it.

Clyde
APP
— Today at 16:19
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